Elopement is one of the very best and purely romantic ways to save loads of money as well as the terror associated with a traditional wedding. We so, so often hear brides say that if they had to do it all over again, they would not have not allowed someone (like Mom or MIL) to hijack their wedding, and would have escaped to the magical and blissful land of the quick, secret wedding. One of the most exciting days I had was nearly 30 years ago when my mother got married for the second time. It was a spur-of-the-moment decision, and she got married the same day she got engaged. The only ones in attendance were myself, my boyfriend at the time, and the judge. Afterwards, we took a few pictures (truly happy-looking ones), and ate lunch at a quaint restaurant. Take note, however - a nasty, sour moment occured when we met at my uncle's for dinner, and she made the announcement to her own mother who had never even met the husband. Nevertheless, they are still married today, as are many famous elopees (Sarah Palin) - just don't pull a Britney Spears and elope while intoxicated. So, is it really okay to be a Good Bride and elope? Absolutely! Some elope because they perceive that their only other choices are having a $28,000 wedding or serving punch, mints, and pimento cheese sandwiches in the church basement (of course, there are other options - that's a lot of what this blog is about). THE challenge for The Good Bride in elopement is how she tells other people. If the bride does not wish parents to be present for the elopement, she should call them the same day and break the news. If I were the mother-of-the-bride, I would also love a personal sweet email and a photographed emailed to me on the same day. Next, the Good Bride should inform as many others in her circle of closer friends and family as possible - and then try to post lots of pictures on a social network like FaceBook right away (that very day would be swell). If someone, like Mom or Dad, reacts even a little negatively to the news, understand that they are in shock, and get off the phone politely as soon as possible, letting them know when you will be visiting them.
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